So I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships, and more importantly the hidden thoughts behind a guy’s mind. This is nothing special because most people would be interested in what others, especially that special one, like you or at least is interested. After taking first year university psychology and some searches online, I’ve found that there’s a lot less to know than one may believe. I believe self-doubt makes us think unrealistically. So to the point, if a guy likes you, would you know and how? There is no absolute correct answer. Different culture and norms and also our personality differences makes it hard to pin-point just who likes who. But on the other hand, have you ever thought about other relationships and just how much easier it is to tell if some other couple are interested in each other or not? For example, you see this person and he obviously looks like he likes the other person, but in another situation if that target was you, would you know it the same way? Very likely there’s a lot of self-doubt and self-denial in this. But we’ve fallen for the love trap some point in our lives. We can’t just be sure if a guy likes you…because we don’t even know if we want to accept such an idea when there’s no concrete evidence.

I am here to say that “liking” someone also have different meanings–it could be friendship or love or family or just a competor otherwise for fun. There is no exact answer, but I’ve come to several ways of explaining the signs and ways someone would like you and some of information are not exactly valid just like complex emotions.

1. When we like someone, we may not admit it ourselves which makes it difficult to evaluate clearly if that significant other you’re interested likes you back.

The reason why you’re questioning whether he likes you back even though the answer may be obvious, is because of self-doubt. Attribution theory makes it hard for us to believe in good or bad outcomes that are undesirable. We may think of many environmental factors or situational factors to ease the thought of concrete truth. In other words, we may as well not think about whether the guy likes you back or not because we will only convince ourselves false truth, being immersed in something that is doubtful. So forget about the idea of someone liking you for at least a few days, though it is very hard, and then go back and think about it again, and think about if you were some outsider witnessing such a situation, would you believe that he like you back? Yes, no, or maybe not enough evidence?

2. Body language

The eyes are the windows to the soul; the proverb makes it easy to tell if someone actually like you back. Just look into their eyes, look at their body cues and think for a moment…does this lead me to think they like me? Are they nervous because  they like you? Because they are shy in general? Because they have something worrying on their mind? Or because you are there and he’s trying to impress you? Or do they seem like they are avoiding eye contact, stuttering or keep one touching themselves? It could more likely be that they fancy you than they actually think you’re annoying. Generally, there’s a high chance that guy likes you when he acts differently towards you.

3. Everyone likes you

Don’t worry about being disliked. Most people don’t really hate anyone in general, so people will like you for who you are. Keep being who you are because there is at least one person in this world (DON’T FORGET FRIENDS AND FAMILY) who loves you unconditionally.